Former beauty queen, Dabota Lawson, has insisted that it is not a bad thing when one decides not to forgive a cheating partner. Through her Instagram post, Lawson whose marriage to her billionaire husband, Sunny Aku, ended few years ago, said being cheated on was an awful feeling but how you handled it could have a big part in your recovery process.
“Here are some ways you can deal with the SITUATION;
1 Decide if you want to re-establish trust.
You may also need to ask yourself these questions. Is your partner truly sorry? Has this sort of behavior happened before, or has he or she promised to not do it, and it has continued or got worse? Is your partner willing to take steps to mend the relationship such as counseling? Do you truly feel you want to trust this person again? There is no right or wrong answer for this. This is entirely up to the person who has been cheated on.
“It’s also important to Understand the nature of your partner’s cheating. People cheat for many different reasons and it is not always about sex. Sometimes people cheat because they are seeking an emotional connection. Request that your partner cut off all communication with the third party. If your partner is unwilling to cut off contact with the third party, it may be a sign that they are unwilling to stop cheating. In this case, you may not be able to repair the relationship.
“Forgive on your own terms. Your partner may be extremely apologetic and desperate for you to say that you forgive them, right then and there. But true forgiveness and healing will likely take time.
Lastly, It is okay to not forgive. Cheating is a deep wound and sometimes is fatal to a relationship. How did you deal with a cheating partner?”